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拜讀沾屎兄在輔仁媒體的鴻文《80後社會原罪系列之80後的女校聚會》，有幾句話想說說。
沾屎兄說到女校畢業生見面如打仗，發生這種事的確不難想像。不過，身為80後，亦是女校出身，我自問沒有「去同學聚會要忍受冷嘲熱諷」或「去同學聚會要冷嘲熱諷別人男友 MK 」的感覺。
畢業後，舊同學一年才見面一兩次是事實。正因見面時間少且短，大家都集中說說自己的事業和兒女，除非另一半陪同出現，否則男人是否筍盤、是否 MK ，其實很少花唇舌提起。莫說是舊同學的另一半是開 Audi 還是波子，就連姓甚名誰做盛行，都很難一一記住。
女同學聚首一堂，很少說男人是非，多數是「班花生了孩子，好可愛」、「班長去了印度做無國界醫生，很有愛」、「某某去了美國讀博士，很好學」、「某某下月結婚，大家準備去飲」之類。
女校 TB 蛻變為美豔人婦雖然不乏人在，但更常見的是 TB stays TB ，到了三十歲還是 man 到不能，莫講話嫁人，要找男朋友也難。不過許多 TB 自得其樂，婚嫁之事不用他人擔心。
因為圈子相同，又有聯校活動推波助瀾，女校生和男校生談戀愛是近水樓台、天經地義。不過又有「幾多對持續愛到幾多歲」？名校男生有風度有學養是事實，但恃著自己是名校仔而花花弗弗、換女如換衣服者亦大有人在。當年女同學受過的情傷，許多都是拜名校仔所賜。
初出茅廬女孩心中 ibanker 、律師之類筍盤，到了三十歲過後，就會發現不如當初想的好。 ibanker 為工作賣命，朝早睇港市，夜晚睇紐約、倫敦，就算人在家中，都總是機不離手、心不在焉。嫁這種老公，變相提早守寡。律師聰明絕頂，事事機關算盡，做律師的女同學說，千揀萬揀，都不想在同行當中找對象。嫁這種老公，千萬不要離婚，因為下場會很慘。
反過來說，找個做小職員、朝九晚五不用搏到盡的老公，做老婆的就能要風得風要雨得雨，週末要去哪裡玩，老公都能奉陪，又是一種幸福。女人是否名校出身都好，都對另一半有所要求，外人看來只懂篤波唱K 鬥車的飛仔，如果一無是處，豈能留住女人的心？溫柔體貼、浪漫風趣這些女人渴求的東西，搵錢至上的 ibanker 和律師識條鐵？
去同學聚會，除非是婚宴，否則未必人人都會 dress to the nines 爭妍鬥麗，大家認識多年，幼時最醜樣最薯餅的樣子都見過了，是真正朋友的話，何須化行個妝？
喜歡鬥、喜歡比較的人是有的，幸好我讀過的女校校風淳樸，出來的女生都平易近人、不好高騖遠，很多都嫁得腳踏實地、幸福美滿。人比人真是會比死人，去見舊同學要如此 (被) 狗眼看人低的話，這種舊同學不要也罷，這種聚會不去也罷。
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有教養的人，不會隨波逐流，嫁個有錢人，是嫁給錢，錢不在，就 bye bye，而有錢的，送上門的多著呢，會專一嗎？
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I agree with 山地媽. Do not compare yourself with others as every one of us is unique and there is no standard of comparing all the attributes of a person. So long you had do your best in your study and workplace and spend time with your family, parents and children. Life is really simple and you can be a happy and lovely persons without owning a Porche or Mercedes Benz.
I introduce a book by Domonique Bertolucci called “The kndness Act" which give you the keys to feeling good about who you are.
Enjoy.
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out how you center yourself and clear your head prior
to writing. I have had trouble clearing my thoughts in getting my thoughts out there.
I truly do take pleasure in writing however it just seems like the first 10 to
15 minutes are generally lost simply just trying to figure out how to begin. Any recommendations or hints?
Thank you!
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